Communication: If only it were that easy

Although I am a communication major communication is never easy. In college communication is essential in any situation. I have learned that there are two types of communication that take place on a college campus. Verbal communication as well as nonverbal communication are tools that if mastered can help you understand other people, most of the time. I however find that when it comes to other people I am usually at a loss.

There are usually only three types of strangers that ever seem to want to talk to me. The first is the valley girl. The valley girl while very beautiful and nice does not have a lot going on in her brain. That is not to say that the valley girl is not smart, on the contrary, the valley girl lacks depth. I have met only a few of these girls, but whenever you venture into a topic that requires them to think you may as well just pack up your backpack and leave while you still can. Them trying to understand a deep topic is like me trying to be a swim suit model, it’s never going to happen.

The second type of stranger that I always find my self cornered by is the village idiot. What I mean by village idiot is, there are some people that I have talked to on campus that make me feel like I am getting dumber just sitting there listening to them. I am pretty sure if you think that Asia is a country you probably should not have been accepted into college. Not only is the village idiot slightly stupid, the village idiot always thinks that what they have to say is the most important thing in the world. No one cares about your views on the world because most of the time you have no idea what you are talking about anyway. As you can tell I have had more than one run in with the village idiot.

The third type of person on campus is the awkward starer or as I like to call them the classroom peeping tom. There is typically one in every class room. That guy or girl that will not stop staring at you. The one that you just want to ask them if you have something on your face. Sorry to burst your bubble but people do not go to the library to be creepily stared at, they go there to study. The reason that the classroom peeping tom is so annoying is because they never really do seem to talk to you. Maybe it is just a case of them being shy, but considering I do not possess a single shy bone in my body people not talking and staring is a huge pet peeve. Seriously guy in Humanities I. I know that it is eight o’clock in the morning  and I look super beautiful with no makeup on, or scary whichever you prefer, but I would appreciate it if you would make the creepy staring a little less obvious.

Communication is a huge part of our lives. Although it can be to your benefit you are always going to run into people that you do not necessarily care for. Being able to interact with them in any setting especially the work place is key. Being in college is one of the greatest and worst experiences ever. Granted the good outweighs the bad, but not everything can be sunshine and roses all the time. I guess the point I am trying to make is be aware of the messages that you send to people. Everyone interprets things differently, and if you are not careful you may just end up in a conversation you can not escape.

Thankful

All month long I have seen posts on Facebook and Twitter about what everyone is thankful for this year. So, I figure it is about time for me to say what I am the most thankful for this year. I am thankful for so much this year that it will be very hard to choose between everything. The first thing that I am thankful for is my family. My Dad is the best Dad that anyone could ask for. Between supporting me in everything that I do to giving me advice when I most need it he has been amazing, and he does laundry in case anyone wanted to know. My brother Nathan is a senior this year and although he is moving forward in his life and saying goodbye to high school I am very thankful for him because he always knows just how to make me laugh. Between snap chatting me ridiculous pictures to all of our inside jokes he is the best brother I could ask for. You might even say he is my favorite brother.

Now for the little witches. Mallory is finally a freshman and she thinks that she rules the roost at home. Truthfully for the most part she does. I am thankful that she is such a big help to my Dad. She has grown up so much in one year that she almost does not seem like  the same kid. I am glad to call her my sister because in the middle of a fight she will definitely have my back, even if she is skinny she is still pretty scrappy. Last but not least is Emily. Em is the baby of our family, but sometimes I think she is smarter and wiser than all of us. I am thankful that she is my sister because even though we fight she always knows when something needs to be done. Like my mom she is very much a busy body. She is always doing something. Even though her lists drive me crazy, I am thankful that she keeps me somewhat organized when I am at home.

The next thing that I am the most thankful for this year are all of my friends. I have so many friends that care about me that it is impossible to name them all. So for this year I will stick to two. I am very thankful for my roommate and friend Amy Peiffer. She and I are both crazy and we get along great. I was really nervous about transferring to UNI, but when I met her this Summer I did not really realize what I was getting myself into. Not only is she awesome, but we have the same taste in music, books, and we are both total slobs. If I was smart I would let Emily come up to visit because we all know that crazy can not stand a mess. Between our late night Perkins runs to shopping at Target together Amy and I have become great friends and I am thankful to have her as my roommate.

The second friend that I am thankful for is Whitney Broghammer. If you want to know what true friendship is take a page out of her book. Whitney has been there for me through everything, even when she had bad things going on in her life, she still managed to be there for me. She offered me nothing but support when I was at my lowest. I love having her at UNI because even though we have different schedules and live in different places we still manage to make time to see each other. I have never had a friend like her, and I can honestly say we will be best friends for life no matter where it takes us.

This year remember the people that are here with you that you are thankful for as well as those who have passed on. We never know how long we have with someone so make every minute count. I am thankful that I have a guardian angel watching over me at every minute of everyday. Although I miss my Mom everyday I know she is still watching over me and making sure that I am successful in life. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Don’t plan on the future because sometimes tomorrow never comes. Instead live everyday like your last. Love deeply,  forgive often, and above all give thanks for all that you have.

Moving Forward

Life is hard. Some people like to say that life really is not complicated people are. I am a firm believer in both. Life is never easy. It will throw you curve balls and knock you down, but it is also about how you react to the situation that you are in. I thought that when I graduated high school that I was going to go to Mount Mercy University and become a nurse. I was wrong. Nursing while rewarding for some made me miserable. I did not want to have to talk to someone that was sick about their symptoms, or see someone pass away with their family all by their side. I had been through to much death and grief. I was so tired of it, and the fact that I hate math and science really did not help the matter.

This year I am a communications major and digital studies minor at the University of Northern Iowa. Truthfully UNI is the perfect fit for me and I am eternally grateful to all of the people that supported me in my decision to transfer schools. Life is never easy but we have to take it in stride. I have met so many great people along the way that it is impossible to name them all. College is all about exploring. It is not just the exploration of your future. It is so much more than that. It is the exploration of the world, ourselves, and life itself.

This year I have lost a total of 50 lbs. I am 22 lbs. away from my weight goal and I have never looked or felt better. I wanted so badly to be able to lose weight in high school. I went on diet after diet and killed myself working out. It never worked. I always gave up or sabotaged myself. I felt like being fat was why people did not like me and ever since I can remember I struggled with my weight. I have worked hard to get where I am at. Now of course I have to eat like a rabbit, but I will be a rabbit for the rest of my life if it means i can be this happy forever. The feeling I get when people who have not seen me for awhile do not even recognize me is the greatest feeling in the world.

My life was forever changed after the passing of my mother. People were there for me who I never thought would be and people who I expected to be there for me were not. I have risen from the ashes, but I am far from finished. I am still in college and I am still moving forward. My dream is to one day move to Kansas City or Nashville and do what I love most, sing. The journey will be long and hard, but I have learned that anything worth having in life is worth working hard for. I do not have all of the answers and maybe I never will, but as long as I never stop trying I can not fail. Just try and Stop me!

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